Facebook Has No Manners!

I’ve always known that Facebook is a law unto itself, what with the publishing of personal details without asking, allowing use of images without asking, and various other steps it has taken without our permission.

Recently I found something I had never known before.  I decided to set up a group on Facebook and set about ‘inviting’ people to join my group – at least that’s what I thought I was doing.  In fact it turns out that I was not inviting people to join, Facebook was adding them automatically to the group when I suggested names!

I was horrified and quickly messaged everyone to say I was sorry they had been added without their consent.  I really thought I was sending an invitation! One of the easiest ways to upset our loyal readers is to add them to anything without asking.

Facebook seriously has no manners!

P.S.  If you want to joing the group I set up it’s all about blogging and helping each other to blog more effectively.  You can find the group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/LearnToBlogWithMandyAllen/

25 Comments

  • Jack Milgram

    Reply Reply November 19, 2012

    No manners indeed. I hope it was only some technical problem. I do not understand how they can add users to anything without their official consent? What if somebody wants to add me to a Nazi group or something like that? I hope that the problem will be solved.
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    • mandyallen.com

      Reply Reply November 19, 2012

      Sadly, John, if someone wants to add you to a Nazi group and they are on your friend list they can do it without your permission if it is their group. I think it’s very bad practice.

      Enjoy the journey.

      Mandy

  • Steve
    Twitter:

    Reply Reply November 19, 2012

    Hi Mandy

    You’re right Facebook is rude!

    How are you, it’s been far too long…my fault entirely, been head down in the golf stuff, but have come up for a breath of air 🙂

    Let me know when you’re free and we should try and catch up.

    speak soon
    cheers
    Steve x
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    • mandyallen.com

      Reply Reply November 22, 2012

      Hi Steve, lovely to hear from you! I’m actually going to be your way over new year for a few days, maybe we can meet up, that would be good. Glad you’re well and working hard!

      Enjoy the journey.

      Mandy

  • Philip A.
    Twitter:

    Reply Reply November 20, 2012

    Hi Mandy,

    This happened to me also, I noticed a lot of groups in my feed page, and I couldn’t remember when I joined them. Only after creating my own group I understood how I became a member of does groups.

    Maybe some people are not bothered by this, but I think it is just not right that you ca do this.
    Same goes with tagging pictures. I could tag a hollywood celebrity in picture and that will instantly get huge traffic.
    Nevertheless Facebook still is a great source of traffic…

    Enjoy your week Mandy.

    ~Philip
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    • mandyallen.com

      Reply Reply November 20, 2012

      Hi Philip, thanks for visiting. I really think they should send invites rather than just adding automatically. I did send out messages once I realised but I had assumed I was sending invites. Bad manners!

      Enjoy the journey.

      Mandy

  • Cararta
    Twitter:

    Reply Reply November 22, 2012

    HoooRay….

    I did the same thing, only didn’t find out for a long time that it did the
    automatic put them in the group…

    Results: Omar posted a nice little ditty about Spammy people creating groups and adding you in without asking….
    I just clicked on friends (FB) that I thought would be interested
    in a group called Affiliate Marketing Tips
    where people share! and help each other
    and can post links to their sites…people come and go, guess that is life!

    Live and Learn,
    This looks very interesting around here, I know I’ll be back!

    So Barry Wells share does work!

    My post showing is one of my recent efforts at creating videos to put on YouTube so if you check it out, please be kind!
    If you are interested come over to FB ArtaGene and check it out….some neat people hang out sometimes
    C.
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    • mandyallen.com

      Reply Reply November 22, 2012

      Hi Cararta, thanks for visiting. I’m glad you found your way over here and hope you can visit again. I read that comment by Omar and wondered who it was, glad to hear it was a genuine mistake. I noticed straight away so put the mistake right very quickly. I do think it shoul dbe an invite though, not an automatic add.

      Enjoy the journey.

      Mandy

  • Riaan Saaiman
    Twitter:

    Reply Reply November 22, 2012

    Hi Mandy

    Yes Facebook is most definitely rude!

    I get added to all sorts of groups all the time. You would think FB would invite rather that just add.

    Riaan
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    • mandyallen.com

      Reply Reply November 22, 2012

      Hi Riaan, thanks for visiting. I so agree with you, it should be an invite, not an automatic add. Missed you Tuesday, we almost had a full house!

      Enjoy the journey.

      Mandy

  • Adrienne
    Twitter:

    Reply Reply November 23, 2012

    I’m glad you wrote about this Mandy because you know how I feel about this.

    I mean as time goes on and we meet lots of people online we get bombarded with so much stuff. Now for the people I’ve personally made those connections that’s one thing but for the people I haven’t that’s annoying and rude.

    That is one reason I’ve yet to create a group on Facebook. When I do get around to it I’ll reach out to some friends and ask them first if they’d like to join. If so then when I create the group they will be the ones I click on. That way they’ve been asked ahead of time and then I’ll reach out to more over time and then add them as I go.

    I don’t think it’s right though, Facebook not giving you this option of asking because it’s not that we don’t want to join it’s that we can only spread our time so thin. If we join every group we’re invited to I would love to know how people are able to participate in them all. I’m still not doing a very good job of it myself

    I appreciate this post and I know I’m not the only one that agrees with you. Facebook should really get some manners.

    ~Adrienne
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    • mandyallen.com

      Reply Reply November 24, 2012

      Hi Adrienne, thanks for visiting. I do indeed know how you feel as you have written about it in the past. I think that as Facebook send us requests for various apps etc all the time they could at least make the ‘add’ system for groups an invite system instead. To be honest there is part of me that isn’t sure why we need a profile page and a fan page and a group, but personally I use my profile for personal stuff and my fan page doesn’t work well so that’s why I decided to go for a group. I’m hoping it will work in a better way for me. I am hoping I don’t have to be friends with all the people who may come into the group as they will then get all my personal updates too! It’s an odd system, if you ask me!

      Enjoy the journey.

      Mandy

  • Sapna

    Reply Reply November 25, 2012

    Hi Mandy

    Facebook is really becoming an annoying application, the unwarranted mails are really creating a nuisance value. Still it is doing more good then bad. Hope they have some basic etiquette up and straight.

    Thanks
    ~Sapna
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    • mandyallen.com

      Reply Reply January 10, 2013

      Yes, Sapna, I agree, Facebook is doing things and making changes that the majority of users are unhappy with. But we all continue to use it, don’t we.

      Enjoy the journey.

      Mandy

  • Kabenlah

    Reply Reply November 25, 2012

    With what happened, you certainly have every right to raise concern.

  • Suzanne Glathar
    Twitter:

    Reply Reply November 26, 2012

    Hi Mandy,

    I am so glad you addressed this because twice now I have been welcomed to groups I have not even requested to join.
    Thanks for the post and the heads up as to what is going on with Facebook.

    have a great day!
    Suzanne
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    • mandyallen.com

      Reply Reply January 10, 2013

      Hi Susan, thanks for visiting. It pays to be careful when you set up a group. Had I watched the whole tutorial video I was sort of half following when I set the group up I would have got to the bit that said ‘pm people first’!! But clever clogs here thought I knew what I was doing! I still think Facebook have it wrong doing it that way.

      Enjoy the journey.

      Mandy

  • Fatima

    Reply Reply November 27, 2012

    I completely agree; the team at Facebook are not Customer-focused they hardly care what the customer concerns are. It’s true that they have a huge user base but they surely don’t know how to keep them happy and as soon as a better alternative pops up; I see Facebook going down..Great share.

    • mandyallen.com

      Reply Reply January 10, 2013

      Hi Fatima, thansk for visiting. Facebook seem to make up their own rules and everyone else has to live with them no matter how the majority feel about it, but if you saw the Social Media film about Facebook it came across very clearly that MZ is not willing to listen to anyone else’s views.

      Enjoy the journey.

      Mandy

  • aayna

    Reply Reply November 28, 2012

    Indeed some of these problems do exist with Facebook, it starts doing things on its own which is not even required by the individual. But everything has its pros and cons. Thanks for sharing.

    • mandyallen.com

      Reply Reply January 10, 2013

      Hi Aayna, thanks for visiting. Facebook have some strange practices!

      Enjoy the journey.

      Mandy

  • Robert Corrigan

    Reply Reply December 13, 2012

    Hi Mandy

    I have had a few issues with Facebook myself this year, I am going to setup a Kindle FB group and this info is very valuable.

    Many thanks
    Rob
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    • mandyallen.com

      Reply Reply January 10, 2013

      Hi Rob, thanks for visiting. I was horrified (you might have gathered that!) at what happened. I did upset a few people, sadly, but mot were understanding and I deleted everyone as soon as I realised what had happened. It always pays to ask via pm before adding someone to a group.

      Enjoy the journey.

      Mandy

  • Matt Hayden
    Twitter:

    Reply Reply January 12, 2013

    Actually I had a similar experience, although it was not so much Facebook to blame as my Facebook “friend”.

    Basically, I’d connected with this bloke via Twitter and then Facebook after I discovered that we were both sick and tired of political correctness. However, my view is not driven by my racial identity. It’s just philosophical. His is, however.

    Anyway, I logged into Facebook one day recently and saw that he’d added me to a group of “Anglo Saxon Australians”. Although this community wasn’t quite a Down Under version of the Ku Klux Klan, it was heading in that direction. I withdrew from it immediately.

    The fact that he did that really pissed me off because if my other friends got notification of me “joining” this group then they would have been left with the impression that I was a loony racist.

    I’m sure that there are lots of other stories like this. I’m amazed that Facebook allows people to do this.
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    • mandyallen.com

      Reply Reply January 12, 2013

      Hi Matt, thanks for visiting. That’s a bad experience to have! I have been added to lots of groups without being asked but I take myself off them if I don’t want to be in, but radical groups adding you is a scary thought, you are right.

      Enjoy the journey.

      Mandy

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